Lesbian Couples: Topics You Should Avoid!
In a sweet relationship, we all hope to stay with our partner happily ever after. But some careless behaviors, like "invisible killers" hiding in the dark, can quietly harm the relationship. Today, let’s talk about these "minefield behaviors" in love—avoiding them will make your relationship much more stable!
1. About Exes and Privacy
Frequently prying into intimate details of their exes: It’s normal to be curious about your partner’s past relationships, but constantly asking about private things from their time with an ex—like specific interactions or dating experiences—crosses a line. Everyone has privacy. Pushing too hard can make them uncomfortable, stir up jealousy and anxiety in you, and even ruin your current relationship.
Comparing your current partner to an ex: Phrases like "My ex was much more caring" or "My ex was more romantic" are like pouring cold water on your partner! No matter what you praise about your ex, it makes your current partner feel unappreciated. It hurts their pride, damages the relationship, and sends the message "you can be replaced anytime"—how could that ever feel good?
Doubting the relationship’s authenticity: Asking "Do you really love me?" or "Are you just used to having me around?" once in a while might come off as cute, but doing it too often makes your partner think you lack confidence in the relationship. They’ll start to doubt it too, and over time, these questions will wear away at your love.
2. Personal Boundaries and Trust
Asking about family privacy too early: If you’ve just started dating and rush to ask about their parents’ income, family conflicts, or health issues, it’s like barging into someone’s house and rummaging through their things—it’s way too abrupt! The relationship isn’t that deep yet, so this will only make them feel awkward and put up a defensive wall.
Insisting on checking their phone or social accounts: Saying "If you won’t let me see your phone, you must be hiding something" is really hurtful! Relationships are built on trust. Forcing them to let you check their phone or hand over social media passwords breaks that trust. The more you try to control, the more they’ll resist, creating a "control-rebellion" cycle that’s terrible for the relationship.
Prying too much into their career and income: Grilling them about their salary, savings plans, or career goals is overstepping. Everyone needs some personal space. This kind of questioning can make them think you care more about money than them, which twists the meaning of your relationship.
3. Future Plans and Self-Worth
Avoiding talks about long-term plans: Dodging conversations about marriage, where to live in the future, or whether to have kids makes your partner feel you’re not serious about the relationship. Their sense of security drops sharply, and the relationship loses its direction.
Putting down their career or dreams: Saying "Your job has no future—you should quit" dismisses a big part of who they are. It negates their life choices, makes them doubt their own value, and hurts deeply—this will definitely take a toll on your relationship.
Constant fights over money habits: Arguing about them "spending too much" or being "too stingy" rarely gets resolved. Money views are core to a person’s identity, and these ongoing fights will slowly wear away at your love.
4. Emotions and Interaction Patterns
Complaining about life stress all the time: Using your partner as an "emotional trash can," dumping negativity every day—talking about how tiring work is or how hard life is—might be okay once in a while, but no one can handle it forever. All the positivity in your relationship will get drained by this constant negativity.
Bringing up old issues during fights: When arguing, dragging up past mistakes with "You did that before too" doesn’t solve the problem—it only makes things worse. The issue stays unresolved, resentment builds up, and bitterness grows stronger.
Threatening to break up: Saying "If you keep this up, we’re done" might work once or twice, but doing it too often will use up all their trust. One day, they might really get tired of it, and what started as a "fake breakup" could become real—by then, it’ll be too late to fix.
5. Personal Hobbies and Social Life
Making them give up their hobbies: Saying "Gaming/watching TV is useless—stop doing it" ignores their way of relaxing and having fun. Forcing them to quit takes away their personal space, makes them feel trapped, and will definitely cause fights.
Controlling them in the name of love: "If you love me, you’ll change everything for me" is wrong. Love is about mutual understanding, not turning someone into exactly what you want. This negates their independence, drains the relationship, and slowly kills the love.
Meddling too much in their social circle: Telling them "Don’t hang out with that friend—I don’t like them" limits their freedom. Over time, they’ll feel suffocated, and problems will start to pop up in the relationship.
6. Communication and Attitude
Giving the silent treatment: After a fight, ignoring each other and bottling up your feelings is dangerous. Unresolved issues are like ticking time bombs—they pile up, and one day, they’ll explode, possibly ending the relationship.
Dismissing their efforts: Saying "What you did doesn’t even matter" when they cook for you or plan a small surprise—these things are done out of love. Putting them down kills their motivation to care for you, and the warmth in your relationship will fade fast.
Constantly interrupting or being dismissive: When they’re talking, scrolling through your phone or replying "Whatever" sends a clear message: you don’t care about what they’re saying. Over time, this weakens your emotional bond, and you’ll grow apart.
7. Other Harmful Behaviors
Comparing their gifts to others’: Saying "Look how much that person’s partner gave them" will either make them feel inferior or make them resentful. Don’t let these comparisons stir up conflict in a good relationship.
Publicly criticizing their appearance: Saying "You need to lose weight—nothing looks good on you" attacks their self-esteem. It makes intimacy hard and cools things down between you.
Always talking about others’ misfortunes: Saying "Marriage is a trap—look how miserable so-and-so is" spreads pessimism about long-term relationships. It shakes your confidence in the future and kills the hope you have for your love.
Accusing them of cheating without proof: Asking "Are you talking to someone else?" with no evidence shatters trust. They’ll feel wronged and resentful, and it’ll damage your relationship.
Frequently testing their loyalty: Making up stories like "Someone’s hitting on me" to see how they react is just asking for trouble. It creates unnecessary doubt, destroys trust, and can’t possibly help your relationship.
Using breakups as a test: Treating breakup threats as a way to solve problems, saying it whenever things get tough, will make both of you numb. One day, it might become real, and you’ll regret it too late.
Love is about mutual understanding and acceptance. Avoid these "minefield behaviors" and nurture your relationship, and you’ll stay happy and together for a long time! Hope everyone steps around these pitfalls and finds true happiness in love.
